Singleness in Creation
- Singleness is an unnatural part of male and female identity: “Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”” (Gen 2:18)
- Male and female were created to be complementary: “So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Gen 2:21-24). ”…I will make him a helper fit for him.”” (Gen 2:18)
Singleness after the Fall
- Singleness has become an unnatural, though common part of life: Jesus had just been teaching on the matter of divorce, after which “…the disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” But he said to them, “Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.” (Matt 19:10-12)
- Many causes for singleness have resulted from the fall:
- Physical inadequacy, spiritual reasons (Eunuchs of Matt 19:10-12)
- Emotional, spiritual and personal abnormalities which make a person undesirable/unsuitable as a marriage partner.
- Sovereign providences which make marriage impossible or make singleness necessary
Singleness in Redemption
- God becomes our Heavenly Father: ”…when the fullness of time had come, God sent forth his Son, born of woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, so that we might receive adoption as sons. And because you are sons, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, crying, “Abba! Father!” So you are no longer a slave, but a son, and if a son, then an heir through God. (Gal 4:4-7)
- Christ becomes our matchless husband: “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…” (Eph 5:25). For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is his name; and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer, the God of the whole earth he is called. (Isaiah 54:5)
- God ensures that all things work together for our good – including singleness. Rom 8:28!
- Our Heavenly Father withholds no good thing from us – singleness or marriage. For the LORD God is a sun and shield; the LORD bestows favor and honor. No good thing does he withhold from those who walk uprightly. (Ps 84:11)
- Therefore, our identity – whether single or married – is firmly anchored in Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, [one could add: there is neither single nor married] for you are all one in Christ Jesus… for in Christ Jesus you are all sons of God, through faith (Gal 3:28, 26)
- God enables us to overcome some of the causes of singleness. “…He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives…” (Luke 4:18) “…So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” (John 8:36)